So the discussion was about SEX this week.
We’ve all heard of abstinence and “just say no” type campaigns. But what about the practical sides of this topic? Instead of questioning if it’s right or not, we explored whether it was even wise or helpful to an un-married relationship.
There was much revealed about how sex changes things… “it moves an emotional relationship into a physical on”, “it causes a relationship to last longer than it should”, “sex makes a break-up that much harder and clouds the possibility of still remaining friends”, “effects one another’s ability to trust later in the relationship”, “sex really impacts my self-worth… I would use someone to get off, feel terrible and then repeat the cycle to try and feel better again” and “hinders honest perception in a relationship”.
What’s been your experience?
The conclusion`to the conversation went something like this:
“Are you willing to love someone the way God loves you?”
“Are you willing to wait until you’re committed to someone without condition before having sex?”
What would that look like for you?
Is it even possible to achieve that kind of relationship in your life?
Comments (3)
I would love to find someone that I can love just like God loves me but have the same feeling in return from the partner. I have had my screw up relationships that are there just for the pleasure but they always end up as closet relationships and you only see each other behind close doors. Ever night I would close my eyes to sleep and pray for hours about all the wrong that is. But the men out there that are really willing to wait I cant find. But I will contiune to work on my love with the father to make it a beautiful relationship when Mr Right finds me!
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It’s more important to BE Mr. or Mrs. Right than it is to find such. When we put forth the time and effort to develop ourselves, the heart gets healthy… and with a healthy heart, we make better choices, surround ourselves with better circumstances and ultimately, attract healthy relationships. There is a psychology to the reality that “like attracts like” - though the personalities can be different, the heart conditions are usually similar. Have you ever seen an example of that?
I cant say that I have ever sat back and thought about that… I always have said that I wanted to date someone….. and I should find my self first and then like you said he will be attracted to my true self. Thanks for the responce Angus.